Tomorrow is Fathers Day in the UK. Approximately 2 million children in the UK have no meaningful contact with their Fathers. One million men slightly more than 10% don’t live with their Dad. The reason is not always down to family break up ( Britain being one of the worst ) but often by choice. Ok man leaves wife , divorced, finds new wife / partner breeds again and new partner excludes the original. House is not big enough you can’t stay. There are a variety of reasons. The fact is for these kids tomorrow is Farthers Day.
In fairness some Fathers are denied access by Mum for many reasons and some don’t fight for the right for what was made at night. The resultant damage is enormous of course and it’s ramifications ripple in a pool of perplexity. Why is he not seeing me ? Why did he leave ? Where is he ? We speak but never meet ? What’s wrong with me? The suitcase of sadness is carried into their relationships and the effects are often repeated damage.
For some men it is inconceivable that they would not ‘ see their kids ‘ and most decent men don’t respect them. Some stay away deliberately not to bring their own trash into the house but in doing so can do more damage. It is of course a sad epidemic but often root cause of crime or misdemeanour. The boy waiting at the gate for his Dad with a football in his hands is a sad sight. The No show is like a knife in the heart. The real problem is that the child becomes deluded with his Fantasy Father. His hero missing in action or forever working and just too busy to drive over and see the poor boy. Or girl for that matter and the blogger recently witnessed the affects on a woman who had only seen her abusing Father twice in 30 years yet loved him like no tomorrow.
Absent Dads don’t pay a penny into their children’s upbringing , have no responsibilities whatsoever and are not present to deal with the mental debris. They are Sperm without a brain without a heart. Mothers are literally left holding the baby and fortunately there are many that step up to the plate and takeover with stories of great success. The situation is too complex to cover in a blog and too upsetting for those affected.
We do have a Father who of course will according to the Bible never leave us or forsake us , Hebrews 13 verse 5. In Him we can rely but He doesn’t play football. I know He likes fishing though men not fish and that He does something in carpentry. The fact is He is there our Heavenly Father who sees the angst , the pain and in all of that the purpose. To all those Fathers that remain doing what they are called to do have a great day and be thankful for the gift of life in your hands. It’s precious look after the little ones for one day they’ll look after you. For the absent ones reading this it’s never too late to put things right but hurry you’re running out of time.
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